I recently heard a statement that painted a vivid picture of what it can be like when we choose not to forgive. "When we make the decision not to forgive someone, it's like us drinking poison and expecting the one who offended us to die."
I’ve always felt badly for Thomas. He is the disciple of Jesus whose claim to fame was his inability to believe the report of the other disciples. He said; “unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe it (John 20:25b).
All of us have observed apologies that just didn’t make the cut! They started out well but ended up feeling more like explanations for why a person feels right or justified. The worst apologies are the ones that quickly get off the rails and turn to blame…not self-blame…but blaming everything and everyone for wrongdoing but themselves. “I’m sorry” are two of the hardest words to say, they seem to be missing from our vocabulary!